Wednesday, December 29, 2010

RIP Teena Marie (March 5, 1956-December 26, 2010)

On Sunday, December 26, 2010, we've lost the most beloved, influential, powerful blue eyed soul singers in history. Her name is TEENA MARIE. That exact night when my friend called my house to tell me that Teena Marie passed away, I went beserk. I was crying hard on the phone like a baby. She was found dead in her home by her daughter. The reason why I didn't post this is because I was mourning her death for a couple of days. It seems like the people that I grew up on as a child in the 80s are gone WAY too soon. People like Patrick Swayze, Corey Haim, Michael Jackson, Luther Vandross, Rick James, Teddy Pendergrass, Eazy E, Guru of Gang Starr, Jam Master Jay of Run DMC, Gerald and Sean Levert of Levert and now Teena Marie. They died under 60 years old. They represented the Generation x culture for Gen Xers like myself. I miss Lady T SO SO SO much. I'm still crying at this moment. I made a dedication video to her on YouTube. Here's the link to the video:

If you were born in the 1970s and earlier, you know who Teena Marie is. You remember songs like "I'm a Sucker For Your Love", "Deja Vu", "Behind The Groove", "Aladdin's Lamp", "I Need Your Lovin", "Young Love", "You Make Love Like Springtime", "Tune In Tomorrow", "It Must Be Magic", "Square Biz", "Portuguese Love", "Yes Indeed", "Casanova Brown", "Dear Lover", "Lovergirl", "Out On A Limb", "We've Got To Stop Meeting Like This", "Shangri-La", "Sunny Skies", "Oo La La La", "Work it", "Here's Looking At You", "If I Were A Bell", "Cupid Is A Real Straight Shooter", "I'm Still In Love", "A Rose By Any Other Name", "Ooh Wee", "Can't Last A Day". These are the songs that I remember throughout my lifetime. And let's not the forget the powerful songs duet with the late Rick James "Happy", "Once And Future Dream", and the ultimate ballad that stood with time, "FIRE AND DESIRE"!!!!! Lady T will always be in my heart. I'm very emotional right now. She represented my childhood just like Michael Jackson. I feel sorry for her 19-year-old daughter, Alia Rose, who tried to wake her mother up, and now she have to live with that pain for the rest of her life. Please pray that she be strong and cope with this tragic death of her beloved mother. I'm still in shock of the passing of Aaliyah and Michael Jackson, and now Teena Marie REALLY REALLY add fuel to the fire.

I hope that you keep Teena Marie's family in prayer. I offer my condolences to them
May you rest in peace, Teena Marie aka Lady T aka Ivory Queen aka Vanilla Child aka White Chocolate. You will always be in my heart forever. You will be sorely missed.
Your legacy will live on. Now you and Rick James can live together forever in paradise.

RIP Teena Marie
March 5, 1956-December 26, 2010

Monday, December 20, 2010

Why Are Black People Trying So Hard To Convince Black Women That They Are The Least Desirable To Non-Black Men?

Yesterday, I was on YouTube as usual, and I was watching and listening to UHeardMe1stTime's videos. She used to be GottoBeKiddinMe 2 years ago. Ok, so anyway, she's a black atheist, and she is recently married to an Asian man. She's the type that likes to use statistics on everything that pertained to blacks. There's some things that I agree with her on, and there's some things she said that I don't agree with. I notice that everytime she talks about interracial dating/marriage, she always want to use the statistics to prove that black women are not wanted by other races of men while at the same time say that black men are the most wanted. It's like she throws black women under the bus. She says that most non-black men don't want black women statistically. I don't believe in statistics because every statistic has a hidden agenda. Anyway, when she talks about interracial dating/marriage among black women, she always throws in "most non-black men don't want black women" or "most black women want black men" or "non-black men prefer women of their own race" or "non-black men just want to fuck you, but not marry you" and she uplifts interracial dating/marriage among black men. She NEVER said this to black men who date/marry interracially. She said that it's not hard for black men to get with non-black women because he's a man. She's just as bad as black men who said that. Everything she talks about black women are always negative. She said that black women don't feel as comfortable around white people as black men do, and black women don't want to get involve in things that's not black-oriented, and that's bullshit because I grew up in a multicultural neighborhood, and I went to a multicultural school, and I listen to other musical genres besides R&B and Hip-Hop. She likes to generalize black women in everything, and I feel offended about it. Then she made a video saying that black women are too emotional to be good debaters, and she said that just because black women show pictures of BW/non-BM relationships doesn't mean that non-black men want them, and she believes that it's all in the numbers, not the pictures. WTF????? I think that she has a hidden agenda when it comes to black women. It seems to me that she and other black people like her want to keep black women from escaping from the black community by telling them that they are undesirable, unwanted, and the least picked of all women. It's the subliminal message behind her videos that I picked up. I just want to ask some questions. WHY ARE PEOPLE TRYING TO CONVINCE BLACK WOMEN THAT THEY ARE UNDESIRABLE TO NON-BLACK MEN? WHY ARE PEOPLE KEEP TELLING BLACK WOMEN THAT THEY ARE NOT WANTED? WHY ARE PEOPLE TRYING TO CONVINCE THE WHOLE WORLD THAT BLACK WOMEN DON'T WANT NON-BLACK MEN? I'm telling you, something's fishy is going on here. And I noticed that it's mainly BLACK PEOPLE that's telling black women this. The truth of the matter is that black people do not want to let black women go, so they will tell black women these things to conjole her to submission. This was what racist white people used to do with slaves. It's like they are trying to control black women by telling her "nobody wants you, non-black men don't want you, even black men don't want you, you're ugly, fat, nappy-headed, tar-baby, mean, have a bad attitude, masculine, so you might as well stay in your place because you will never be as loved, worthy, and desirable as non-black women, so be a good mammy and stay put". This is the message that I'm getting from these videos concerning black women. Why are people so hellbent to control black women and lower their self-esteem? I notice that ever since Michelle Obama became the first lady, and ever since black women starting to date and marry interracially more, there are videos on YouTube popping up about telling black women that they are not wanted, love and desirable like non-black women. It's like they don't view black women as human beings. Black women have the right to date and marry as they choose. Black women have the right to do as they choose, and they don't need a say so in doing it. WE ARE NOT ANIMALS!

Saturday, December 18, 2010

Children and Their View Of Beauty

The reason why I'm writing this post in because my heart goes out to the children and how they were taught as far as beauty standards. Children are very visual and they are going to learn by what they see. Their view of beauty was taught to them by the media and their family as well. We live in a society where the European standard of beauty is the norm and if any woman doesn't fit this beauty standard, she is considered unattractive. The closer you are to this beauty standard, the more the woman will be perceived as attractive. How unfortunate. I believe that this beauty standard is racist because I believe that all women's ethnic beauty should be celebrated, and not just European beauty. The Euro beauty standard is blonde hair, straight hair, light-colored eyes, fair skin, small nose, and thin lips. Since black women are the furthest away from the European beauty standard, they are viewed as ugly to the masses which I think that it's bullshit. The European beauty standard is reinforced all over the media and children learn by what they see. If a child watches TV and all he or she sees are women with fair skin, straight hair, small nose, thin lips, they will automatically think that it's attractive. The more repetitious the media shows this image, the more it will get in a child's brain and he/she will believe that only those type of women are beautiful. If they see a woman that doesn't have fair skin, small nose, thin lips, and straight hair, she will be called ugly, and that's what happened to me at my job working with children. I understand that people are entitled to their opinion, and I respect that, but when they constantly call me ugly even though I'm not, I'm starting to think that it's because I have dark brown skin, Afro-textured hair, and African facial features (wide nose, full lips). They will never call a fat and ugly light-skinned black/Latina woman ugly simply because they think that light skin equates beauty no matter how she look. A light-skinned black woman and a non-black woman can be fat and ugly to the core, but because they have fair skin and/or straight hair, their "flaws" are overlooked whereas it won't be the same with brown/dark skinned black woman simply because she's brown/dark. If a woman has one or two Euro features, then her "flaws" are overlooked and she will still be considered attractive, but if she has NO Euro features, then she's considered ugly as hell. They will cut a fat and ugly non-black woman some slack before they will cut a fat and ugly black woman some slack because in this racist country, African beauty is not beautiful unless it's watered down. I work in a Latino community, and they practice colorism the same way that African-Americans do. They also celebrate light-bright-white as well. I notice that when I wear my hair in its natural state, black and Latino children will call me ugly, but I bet you that if I bleach my skin and wear my hair straight or wear a straight weave, then their opinions change. It's not the children's fault, and I'm trying not to take what they say personally because they are only children, but it breaks my heart that black and Latino kids will view dark skinned, Afro-textured haired, wide-nosed, full-lipped black women as ugly, repulsive, and hideous. Children's brains are like sponge, and they will soak up everything that the media feeds them. And they also learn the racist beauty standards from their families and their friends who got it from their families. When a Latino parent call black people racist names, then children will view black people in a negative way. When a black parent uplifts light-skinned, straight-haired, thin-lipped, small-nosed black women and downgrades dark-skinned, Afro-textured, wide-nosed, full-lipped black women, then the black child will view every dark skinned, Afro-textured, wide-nosed, full-lipped black women as ugly. I don't care what nobody says but nobody was born to think like this. They have to be taught this way of thinking. It doesn't happen overnight. We have to teach children that women of all ethinicities have their own unique beauty, and that they are beautiful in their own unique way.