I was thinking about this all month since I posted. I think that we as black women are too narrow-minded when it comes to people, places, and things. All we think about is what pertains to anything that's predominately black to the point where we miss out on opportunities that may not be based on black culture. I believe that expanding your options is more healthier than being limited to just one thing. Expanding your options makes life fun and exciting. It helps you learn more about the world around you instead of what pertains to just black people. Black men have no problem expanding their options when it comes to the type of woman they like, what type of music they like, what type of places they go to, or what have you. Black women, on the other hand, are taught to embrace everything that's predominately black. We weren't taught to expand our options when it comes to men, music, places, events, etc. We were taught to date and marry black men ONLY, listen to black music ONLY, go to black events ONLY, and go to black churches ONLY, etc. It's like if a black woman steps out of the black culture and experiences things that's not pertain to the so-called black community, then she's a sellout while at the same time, a black man can get away with experimenting outside the so-called black community and not be called a sell-out. I'm going to give you an example of what I'm talking about:
As for me, I'm a music person as you can see by the other blog that I've created that's based totally on musical artists of all genres. Almost ten years ago, I was working at a factory in Upper Darby, and during lunchtime, I was listening to Sinead O'Connor's first album, The Lion and The Cobra, and a black guy was asking me what was I listening to, and I showed him some CDs to prove that I'm versatile. This guy had the nerve to say, "You're a black woman, you're not suppose to listen to white boy music". I got very offended about what he said. This was not the first time this happened. Last year, I went to the Sound Of Market in Philly, and I went to the pop/rock/easy listening/show tunes/vocal section upstairs so I can get a Barbra Streisand two-disc greatest hits CD. One black guy told me, "What are you doing here in a white section? What, you don't like black music? What, you don't like being black? Do you know any black artists that you can buy?" I just want to slap him in the face for saying that. Doesn't he even understand the history of music in America? Doesn't he know that black people started EVERY genre of music in this country? He didn't even know me. I'm a versatile person when it comes to music, and I'm just being me, an individual. This is what I have to go through.
A black woman who is an individual is a THREAT! They expect a black woman to limit herself to either negative stereotypes (Mammy, Jezebel, Sapphire) or anything and anyone that's predominately black. Black women who are individuals, don't pay any attention to those who are negative. Be who God created you to be, and keep on keeping on. If you want to expand your options in different races of men, then you have that right and don't let no one tell you that you don't have any rights simply because you're black and female. If you want to expand your options in your music collection, then go ahead. If you want to expand your options in your surroundings, then you can do it. The so-called black community doesn't have our best interests as black women anyway, and they HATE black women who are individuals. I guess they expect black women to be followers, supporters, mammies, sex slaves, and mules for a community that doesn't exist. There's so much more OUTSIDE the so-called black community that you can experience. You can go to an art museum that's in a diverse area. You can go to an opera concert. You can travel to places that you've never been to, you know, getting out of your comfort zone. You can take different languages to expand your bilingual skills. Trying something new is healthy. Getting out of your comfort zone is healthy. It's only when you limit yourself to one person, place, or thing that will make you miserable in life. Black women, expand your options in EVERYTHING!